My moms friends have completely changed her and when I say completely I mean even her accent has changed , She was born in new york so her accent used to be pretty nice and because she has been hanging out with her hillbilly friend her accent now sounds like she is from somewhere like Alabama and she also talks reallllly load and she never used too! It’s weird.
My mom is NOT the same person, she is crazy and argumentative! She starts fights with me, my sister and my dad all the time for no reason. The only people she seems to like are her friends. She acts like because she’s the mom she can push us around like we are lower than her.
She’s always calling me a “spastic” saying I’m “not normal” and that I’m “weird” a “psycho,” a “freak”.
Yesterday she went clubbing with her friends and then her friend slept over and today she had 4 of her friends over (with their kids) from 9AM till 7PM. She has got a different one of her friends over all the damn time 7 days a week. They go through our cupboards and everything. And her friends are always calling me names and shouting at me.
I baby-sit my brother when she goes out and I do all the dishes, cook the dinner, ect.. I’m basically more the mom than she is. She hasn’t cooked dinner for like 3 years, either me or my sister cook. She normally spends her days out shopping with her annoying clingy friends.
Which type of 42 year old mother is like this?!
We have no privacy. Her friends seem to know EVERYTHING about us. Even when I go to check out colleges they “tag” along. Everything I do they know. I feel trapped.
She acts like a teenager, She really really really does. I don’t know what’s wrong with her!!!!!!!!!!!!! She’s mental. It all started after she had a hysterectomy a few months ago. She’s BONKERSS!!! And I actually hate her.
And every time we do talk all she brings up is her friends. And the other day she hit me for no reason, just because I raised my voice and then she said “Teresa (her friend) hits her daughter, Why Can’t I!!!”
And then when we were talking about my brothers high school (his starting high school soon) she says something like “yeah Ann (her other friend) said it was a bad school so I won’t send him there” but the thing is Ann’s 3 kids who are teens are ALL drug addicts who have been in prison by the age of 17 so what does she know.
She always thinks they’re right when to be honest I probably know more than them regardless of my age I am way more responsible them all of them.
And her friend \Tracy lives around the corner and her and her loud mouth daughter basically live at our house they’re here so much. They even go through our cupboard’s, eat all our food. I mean my mom spends like $90 on groceries a week and with everyone eating here they don’t even last 3 days.
I’m 16, I’m not in college or in school at the moment So there’s nobody I can talk to about this. My dad is always on her side. If he goes on my side my mom calls him a “p*ssy boy”
I mean out house is like a hotel. All I want is my old mom back and to spend time with her. But all we do is argue about her friends and she won’t get that what she is doing is wrong.
We have no time with her alone. The other day she was having a shower and whilst she was in the shower her friend turned up with her kids and my mom had to rush out, and then when they went after a few hours my mom was working out and then another one of her friends turned up with her kids. It must be annoying. But she doesn’t seem to care. I mean today they were here from 9am-7pm which was basically all day and then when they went my mom had a sleep then she woke up, had a bath and then went to bed so we never had anytime with her and its like that 7 days a week.
Every Friday night my moms friend comes back to our house drunk (she’s an alcoholic) and starts screaming at me and calling me names for absolutely and when I’m scared and about to cry my mom just stands there laughing.
I don’t know what to do, I’m only 16!!!! The question is WHAT CAN I DO? I have nobody who can help me.
Is it fair that she has her friends over all day?! Can’t she go to there\s once in a while or something?! I lock myself in my room when they are here.
It’s making me depressed. Am I going over the top?
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NO! you do not deserve to be treated like that. i strongly suggest you get back in school, for the both of you. your mom will have time w/ her friends during the day, while you are being progressive, and hopefully at night you can spend time w/ her
call a suicide help line. even if youre not suicidal they can really help. im serious. do this and they can get ytou thru this and help your mom and family. please please please. i dont want you to suffer like this any longer. my mom was the same way and thats what i did. it helped my family out alot!
wow. you got it bad girl. im really sorry. you can call the cops on her when she’s drunk. im serious. you can call a local phyciatrist and get an appointment. you can show your mom this question so maybe theres no yelling. or you can just talk to her. tell her friends to leave and TALK TO HER!!! that’s what i would do. hope something changes.
sorry.
Why is she calling you these things? I suspect you’re not doing anything odd or anything, but that is plain, NOT FAIR. You need, no matter when, you NEED to talk about this with her. First of all, I suggest talking with your dad, since you said what happens when he’s on your side, so I don’t know if he has been or not before, but TALK WITH HIM FIRST. Ask him if there’s a way you guys can figure this all out, and not have your mom’s friends over 24/7, because she’s YOUR MOM, not theirs, and you need to spend some time with her too. You cannot keep on living like this, and you need to FIND a time, when you can talk to both of them.
Call child protective services I’d want to get myself (and my brotherand sister) out of that house asap!!! Is there another relative you could go live with?
I imagine the hysterectomy has had a big impact on your Mom.It can send a woman over the edge if she doesn’t have a good doctor. But that is no excuse for her abusing you kids. Your Father is an adult and if he wants to take it that is fine, but he should stand up for you kids. Again I’d look into ways of getting out of the situation.
I don’t mean to offend you, but your mom is crazy! I would suggest staying at a friends house or a relatives house for a while. Maybe talk to your moms friends kids and see if they feel the same way?
It seems to me like you’re mom is trying to impress her friends and is perhaps afraid of being rejected if she doesn’t behave the way they do. Even though she’s had a hysterectomy however long ago, it doesn’t justify her cruelty. The difference between your situation and mine is that my mom’s always been this way, yet her friends aren’t always over stealing our food and such. My mom’s actually choked me before and she wouldn’t let me go back to school the next day, so I wouldn’t be able to report what happened. She thought that I would “cool down” over spring break. This was last year. So, you’re not the only one whose mom is a total whack job.
Talk to your dad about this, as well as your siblings when she’s actually gone. See how they feel about this. Good luck with this situation. How long has this been going on for, meaning how long have you lived there?